When men commit to the (inner) work ... women's lives are massively better.
Two days ago I sent an email to women, asking this question:
What difference would it make to you if the man in your life (past or present) decided to take massive action to improve the quality of every aspect of his life (including but not limited to his relationship with you)?
I was actually surprised at the volume of responses from women.
Though I shouldn’t be.
Women are STARVING for men to commit to sincere personal growth, to evolve beyond merely knowing how to make money or solve technical problems and become fully relationally aware, skillful, present, as well.
A few highlights of what women wrote (MEN, PAY ATTENTION!):
Anna: “It would change everything. I wouldn’t be with a man otherwise, nor would I stay long-term. In fact, I didn’t. I left a marriage with a wonderful man who, on the surface, did everything right, but he lacked this commitment. He had no greater purpose and was not reaching toward wholeness.”
Kim: “If my ex-husband made any sort of effort to better himself and get out of the rut he was in, I probably would not have divorced him.”
Courtney: “Having a man in my life that doesn’t fully embrace my feminine energy means I spend so much of my energy carrying extra burdens.”
Jessica: “All the difference in the world. It would lend itself to so much more trust and security in the relationship and help me feel like I had a true partner instead of someone I had to mother or coach.”
Bianca: “I would feel safe, held, supported, confident, and assured. It would also be a MASSIVE turn-on. A man dedicated to personal growth is super sexy.”
Jayne: “I exhausted myself giving and not receiving until I made myself physically and mentally ill. I would have respected and encouraged him on his journey, but he wasn’t willing to look at his wounding.”
Valerie: “If I’m raising my awareness and growing to solve problems and my partner isn’t, then I feel unmet and like I need to work harder than he is.”
Susan: “As a woman, I have to tell you how deeply painful and disappointing it is to see so much potential in a man who won’t take the steps to grow.”
Kim: “It would no doubt bring tears to my eyes: relief, relax into his presence, joy, heart-swelling admiration, even greater LOVE!”
Anonymous: “In general, this would make me feel safer with him, less stressed out, and give me a much-needed breather.”
Anonymous: “Had he taken the step to grow, I would have trusted him with our family life, relaxed, and respected him for being the best version of himself.”
Nicola: “A program like Elevate would mean the world to me if he committed to helping himself, choosing a better life, and healing alongside other men.”
Lisa: “I’m playing on team healthy intimacy now. I’ll only play with teammates who show up to practice.”
Aura: “For me? Heaven on Earth. It would mean living a life where love, partnership, and shared responsibility create safety and joy. It would mean a life where we don’t have to carry alone, where both of us give and receive fully, and where my daughter witnesses what it truly means to be supported, seen, and cherished.”
If you’re a man, at this point you might protest, “What about women? They’re not perfect, either! Why blame men for everything!?”
Which, I get. Remember, my relationship model is 100/100 (both partners must take 100% responsibility to succeed). So please don’t take this to mean everything is on men’s shoulders (it’s not).
But do take this as a wake-up call.
In recent conversations with men who have applied to ELEVATE 2026, I’ve heard more than once from men who’ve been reading my ELEVATE emails for years. Sitting on it. Resisting. Often either convinced this won’t work for them, or giving themselves reasons (usually money) why they can’t do it.
Sadly, many of us men have to hit bottom – finally lose the woman, or our dignity and self-respect – before we take action.
Don’t be that guy.
This is essentially your last chance. Applications close in the next few days.
I promise you: If you choose to go all in with me, I will go all in with you.
Click Here For the Application To Elevate 2026
I also promise you: Your woman (present or future) is aching for you to choose “all in” on massive action to elevate your life.
